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[ladyofavalon77]

Third time changing this entry :)  

This WAS a drama filled post about why this journal became friends only but after talking to person in question I realized that I might have jumped the gun so changed it just in case I did.  I will stick to my plan to keep journal friends only just in case my open journal entries were adding fuel to a fire.  And that's all I'll say on the matter :)

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[(Anonymous)]

You know, I wasn't going to comment on this since I don't actually have a journal of my own, so I don't get the whole "friends-cut" concept (I'm guessing it makes your journal private?) but to be honest, you have said things in the past that are pretty offensive, even if you don't realize it. There was an entry about Dancing with the Stars where you glibly mentioned that someone might "convert you to overweight girls" I read awhile ago (while looking for the latest 24 dish). Do you have any idea how rude and ignorant that made you sound? I frankly was offended, and I'm not even your friend! That and the gay-bashing made me pretty uncomfortable reading your journal, which is why I stopped commenting for awhile. But I digress.

These "friends" on LJ: are they really your friends, anyway? Or is "friend" just a subjective term that LJ uses to title the people who read your journal and whose journal you read? Because if it's the latter, then maybe you're putting too much faith in the people who have friended you. I don't think adding someone to your list makes them your friend instantly, and deleting someone probably doesn't mean they hate you! People drift apart online just like they drift apart offline too -- maybe you just don't have a lot on common, or talk anymore, etc?

Anyway, I've (for the most part) enjoyed reading your journal. You made me laugh, so keep that up.

I'm glad you commented!!!

[ladyofavalon77.livejournal.com]

See now you spread light on why I've lost some friends :) I wouldn't have known otherwise. I realize the gay entry might not suit people's tastes but I didn't go into detail. I didn't realize the comment I made about Dancing With The Stars was thoughtless and I admit right off...sometimes my mouth does run away with me. I will try to be more careful in the future. My problem has always been discretion. It's easier to change if someone tells me though...the problem I've been having is that no one TELLS ME!!

Now that you've mentioned that those entries made you uncomfortable I do apologize. I should have kept those comments to myself, I just had no idea people were really reading. Some also just came from me talking without thinking. Please accept my apology for the offense...it wasn't meant to do so :)

As for the friends title thing, it could be that BUT there have been a number of run ins with the ones who've left. The person in question doesn't like to confront and when called out on the rug, just denies but does things to go against what they just said. Now if the above mentioned remarks is why they defriended me, I TOTALLY understand. Those thoughts were careless and could be hurtful. However, it would be nice if they would just say so. ESPECIALLY when we've been chatting back and forth for a year or two now.

I'm glad I made you laugh and thank you for being so open minded. My only regret is that I was too open with my thoughts. Thanks for being open with yours!